Normally, in most cultures and most parts of the world, when a woman weds with a man, it is required that she takes on his surname.
Unlike other parts of the world where some women choose not to take on their husbands’ last names, in Nigeria, it still remains the tradition and it’s very rare to see that not being the case.
However, media personality and business woman, Toke Makinwa has on her podcast revealed the reason she never bothered to change her last name during marriage, and doesn’t want to in her next marriage either.
The media personality who was once married but got divorced due to alleged infidelity on the part of her ex, revealed he wasn’t the kind of person who would push a woman to change her name.
Toke Makinwa said it wasn’t ever up for discussion, revealing that her ex-husband had a married sister, a top doctor, who didn’t pick up her partner’s name either.
Toke Makinwa who was recently in Dubai for the COP28 added that her name is a brand she has worked hard to build and even if she got married again, she still won’t change her surname but her kids can take up their father’s name.
In her words:
“I kept my last name when I get married. It was supposed to be Toke Makinwa-Ayida but it was only at home that he called me Mrs. Ayida, but I was always called Toke Makinwa.But he understood as well because he came from a family where his sister was a doctor, an OBGYN, a very top one, and she’s always still known as Dr. Ayida, so he never had a conversation with me about baby, why can’t you change your name? Like he wasn’t wired that way, he didn’t care.I hope that whoever I end up with next would actually love it because Toke Makinwa is staying. I don’t want to hyphenate, I’m not taking anybody’s last name. My name was and is Toke Makinwa. My kids can bear their father’s surname.In my marriage, my passport, my bank details, nothing changed. We divorced, thank God it didn’t change [laughs]. Imagine what I would have gone through trying to change it back, “please help me o! I used to be former Ayida, I need to become Toke Makinwa my name”, no! I’ve built this brand with blood, sweat, and tears.“
